Woman. Wife. Mother. Those are the words I have used to describe myself for such a long time. Whenever I am faced with having to fill in a bio or profile those are the first words that come to mind. I see myself as all three, but, they always stay in that order. I am a woman first. I got married at the age of 18. I remember being so thrilled that I could identify myself as a wife. And I still feel that way. When our first child came along I was 24. Being the mother of a living human being overwhelmed me at times. It was a daunting task to be faced with...mothering. As my sons grew I faced many days when I could not think my own thoughts. I would be interrupted by the boys or by my husband. They didn't do it on purpose. At least I kept telling myself that!
After my husband graduated from seminary and our youngest son had turned one year old, I went back to college. I knew that I needed to do something for me. I knew that I needed to think again...and not be interrupted. It was vital that I become a better person, so that I could in turn be a better woman, wife and mother. Taking classes did that for me. Doors opened in my mind that I had closed off for years. I grew up with 4 brothers. I was raising sons. I needed to explore my femininity, my spirituality, discover my talents, and begin thinking my own thoughts again.
I made a point to get away when I needed to mental health days. I would take off early Saturday mornings and spend time at the beach with my journal and my thoughts. Each quarter I would go to a nearby convent that rented out rooms and spend a whole day with my journal and a few books. I would write out goals, dream about the future, and think about what I wanted to think about.
This year I will turn 49. One year closer to fifty. We recently celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary, our children are adults, and we are empty-nesters. As a woman, a wife, and mother I feel grateful to be able to say that I have a full life. I am truly grateful to have been born a woman. And to have had a richness of experiences that have moulded and shaped who I am today. I have a great marriage, I raised incredible children, I have traveled to 8 different countries, I have memories to last a lifetime, and I have people that I love to share them with. And as a woman I have needed that...because while I love being able to think my own thoughts...I don't want to keep them to myself. I value having people in my life to share them with!
Wife to Tom since 1981, mother to Nathan and Spencer,missionary in Belize, lover of traveling, reading, and piping hot cups of raspberry tea. She began blogging at Blackpurl’s Knitpicking in April of 2005 to chronicle their experiences of life abroad. They began their journey in Russia and they are currently located in Belize. They work to eradicate the sexual exploitation of children/youth and run a counselling office for abused and hurting children, teens, and women.