Tuesday, 15 April 2014

Mr T.: 3 Months–a long update

little toi

Three months ago today you graced us with your persona, presenting your tiny body which  sometimes we were so scared to break you. But your strength which many recognised strengthened our confidence as new parents of a second child.

Three months ago you latched for the very first time and the few drops of milk you took from me pacified my mind from the pain of my tender nipples. Nowadays you pull and latch onto these tough nipples.

At the time you didn’t smile, you didn’t show your personality but you observed these two strangers caring for you with naive smiles on their faces. I wondered what you were thinking. I counted each minute to see your smile, a sign that would tell me everything was alright.

Then two months ago you graced us with your beautiful heart melting smile. From that moment on I can perform like a clown to steal one smile, your sister and daddy do the same. I believe I can understand your coooees, heees, eeehs, uhhhhs . I answer you and you seem happy with my responses. Yesterday I told you to say something to daddy and you repeated something after I spoke. I then told you something else and you repeated, that went on for some short sentences. It was hilarious to witness. You’ve been definitely repeating my ‘hellos’ and ‘how are yous’ and 'ciaos' and 'I love yous'.

Mr T 56-70Mr T 77-91 days

Nowadays when you lie on your tummy you lifted yourself up with determination.

I've been leaving you alone with daddy for two hours or less to go to the gym. You normally sleep through those hours but other times you wake up. Like yesterday when I went to the AIPlayground meeting. Around 8 is your time to feed and get ready for bed. Every time I'm away from you I miss you so much, but daddy takes care you and your sister so well.

I haven't started bottle feeding you and if I work around your sleep time I might not need to do that because from next month I will start introducing few solid into your daily feeds.

I love photographing and while your granny was here she noticed that. I take photos of you and your sister on a daily basis but on Wednesday I take your weekly photo updates. I see how much you're growing and I wish I could hold your tiny baby size a little longer – my little human doll. Even without hair, your alert bright eyes make you look wiser than 3 months.

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You're friendly with other people and smile at smiling faces. You would then turn to hide your smiling face in my arms – I guess you’re a little shy boy. We’ve been to so many places together. But then you also turn to me and lock eye contact with me.

You've been coming to my writer's group with me and you're angel, you sleep most of time. Last Tuesday we went to the library and daddy was carrying you around, you looked so sweet and little in his arms. Two weeks ago we went to get your vaccination done and on Monday you went to swimming pool for the first time. You enjoyed it because some smiled at some stages.

You know me so well. When I sing you look at me and stop crying. Also you like to hear your sister's voice and see her face. She's such a great sister to you, you kisses your cheeks, caress your head and rock you when you are upset. She also makes sure you're always covered and warm. These days you like to use your fingers to comfort yourself. That was a mark that you are developing eyes mouth coordination. However you still like mummy to comfort when you want to sleep, you cry when you notice we're doing other things than that doesn't involve holding you. I've started using the Ghanaian cloth to carry you around the house when I'm cooking or tidying up. You like the closeness so much you fall asleep often when you're there. You make crawling movements when I put you on the stomach. Today you tried to roll from your back to the stomach when you wanted latte but I had to get something quickly. You also attempt to lift yourself to sit, which baby does that at only three months. You love to watch the giraffe on your mobile.

You received your passport. We have officially become family of four with four [I have duo] citizenship.

toi passport

We’re waiting for the British passport and you and your sister will have a duo citizenship too. I remember when we went to take the passport pictures, it was so sweet to see you sitting on that high chair whilst daddy was holding you still. You were the most adorable baby. You didn’t cry. Instead you were staring at the camera with your model look. Lips little open and eyes wide open, to handsome boy! You have the most contagious smile, straight from the soul – everyone loves it.

Baby boy, I love your beautiful personality, your open smile and lovely deep brown eyes. Everyone sees how beautiful you are from inside out when they first meet you. You have a smile for everyone and I am glad you are such a jovial person. I hope you keep that sunshine about you. 

Though the precious delicate moments of our early days with you as a newborn are going away, we are more than delighted to have you, our joyous little boy gracing our waking days.

Mr T 3 months

You sure are our ray of light and we are happy at the sight of you, our most beloved son.

All of our LOVE,

Mummy, daddy and sister.

Q+A: On My Writing Journey

FAQHow is being a mom of two and an aspiring writer? by Mrs Pancakes


The guilt when I sit in front of my computer to write or when I leave the house to attend my writer’s group has doubled. I’m a bad mother each time I write when my children are sleeping or playing next to me. Writing and editing and motherhood seem not to mingle very well, but I think that other mothers do work and I’m not the only one to feel guilt to pursue my dreams so I push on. As mothers we always put our children first for this reason though this year I envisaged myself with my novel published I don’t mind if that doesn’t happen, because my priorities are my daughter and son need of me. That said I’m working hard and using all my power to get closer to that goal: being published.

Aside from your blog, what other writing endeavours are you currently working on? by Anonymous

Last year I completed my first young adult novel; since then I’ve been revising and revising and revising. It never seem to be ready but finally I feel like it’s at a good place and I want to share it with the world as soon as it’s possible. I’ve written a synopsis for it and after many re-write I will share it with you before the end of April.

Also, recently, a new novel has being playing on my mind and I’m working my way through it.

Monday, 14 April 2014

Our Everyday Life: Spring In the Air

playgroundat the playground

Week 15 of 2014 made us feel lighter, spring was in the air and we did few things we haven’t done in ages. Like going to the playground after an afternoon in the library. Children giggled in their bright outfits and adult wore shorts and talked a little too loud while enjoying the sunshine. We spent more hours in our backyard and imagined our summer filled with more outdoor activities. We went to the swimming pool, I started hot yoga hoping to be fit by the summer.

Monday I woke up at 5:12am and little TOI was still sleeping, I went back to bed worried that he might cry any second. I fell asleep until 6:50am when I heard AOI calling my name. I told her to come into our room, after a cuddle I picked TOI up and fed him while AOI sat next to us and I read a book to her. That same day After breakfast we went to the swimming pool and while AOI swam, AMI worked in the waiting area and TOI slept in his car-seat.

Thursday after my husband heard on the news that there is a possible sighting of moose on the highway he decided we should make a trip to one of our main cities. Half way there he decided we should spend the night there. Also he decided to take a quick detour to one of his fieldwork stations and we got stuck in the mud on our way there.


Thank goodness we have two wonderful children whom cried the right amount and for the right purpose. For instance AOI cried a little because she wanted to go back home and TOI cried because he wanted to feed. We were also lucky because he managed to contact one of his students just in time because they were leaving to go home. Friday we went clothes shopping. For the first time AOI some items she would like to wear. I bought a new pair of jeans, a trousers and two tops. After that we went to the science museum, we had lunch there and then drove back home.

Saturday I went to my writer’s group with TOI. AMI stayed home with AOI and I came back to a new arranged living room. Sunday after church I went to the writer in residence’s house to rehearse the part of my novel I want to read to the public next month.

This week I concluded that sometimes it’s wonderful to step out from the everyday routine to enjoy life with all its adventures. Even if it’s just…

culture at the librarygoing to the library to capture the beauty of childhood culture…

at the libraryobserving your child in a place that you know she might spend days if she had the chance

father and soncapturing a baby safely curled on the most reassuring place he knows right now, the shoulder of a parent

enjoying the daystepping into the frame with all your imperfections

everyday lifesitting back and letting a child unplug her imagination

chilling outenjoying the vision of a child naturally performing a yoga pose

my childrensavouring the moment with your children and capturing it with self-timer

at the museumlooking at your child lost in a world of discovery

the hatbuying something like a floral hat on a whim because you think your child will like it just as much as you

sweet little toiposing for a minute to smile at the blessings when you look into your baby’s eyes.


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